Spells of the Inner Wilderness

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curses we live under, the value of obstacles, and how to break the spell


How do you get from where you are now to where you want to be?

Maybe you remember what it’s like when you move home. You have to pack up all your stuff, you’ve got to get rid of all the clutter that has accumulated over the years, and it always takes longer than you think.

When we want to move on in life – let’s say to have a new career, a different lifestyle, a happier relationship – the goal is always to improve our experience of life, and it is a lot like moving house. You’ve got to move from one internal space to another.

The difference is that the stuff that needs to be shifted is all inside. It is invisible, and you don’t even know yet what it is. There will also be clutter that has accumulated over the years and that needs to thrown out. And it usually takes longer than we think.

 An external move is a lot of work, and it can be stressful, but it’s relatively straight forward. If you don’t know what to do, you can ask for help. You need to get a lot of boxes, organise a van, perhaps invite friends for a ‘moving party’ (first the move, then the party).

When it comes to making an internal move we’re on our own, and we don’t know what we have to do.

How do you shift the inner stuff?

What is it exactly that needs to be shifted?

Where do you get rid of inner clutter?

How do you get from where you are now to where you want to be?

How do you get rid of emotional clutter, pack up old beliefs and move them to a new home?

We assume that it should happen in an instant. Since it’s ‘only in the mind’, we think it’s as easy as flicking a switch.

Well, if you have ever tried breaking an old habit, you know how difficult it can be to shift even one minor little inner thing from here to there.

If I want to loose a bit of weight, I make that decision in my mind to eat less and do more exercise. And then something truly curious occurs.

Suddenly I’m thinking of food all the time. I feel hungry a lot more than usual. I also get very busy, and my yoga routine gets shorter every day. Before I know where I am, I have gained a kilo or two.

This has happened to me many times, so I know it’s not a good plan!

Something similar happens whenever we want to make any change in life that requires an internal shift.

You’ll hit obstacles. You find excuses. You sabotage yourself. It can feel as if you’re under a curse.

How can we break the spells of our inner world?

How can we find our way through this dark, wild, and unknown landscape?

How do you get rid of emotional clutter, pack up old beliefs and move them to a new home?

The German philosopher and poet Jean Gebser gave an interesting talk on the value of obstacles over half a century ago. In his talk he explains that ‘one of the greatest difficulties is to recognise that all the apparent obstacles on the outside belong to us. External obstacles are directly related to our internal obstacles, and the real stumbling block is our lack of inner clarity.’

You don’t need to believe in magic to break this spell, but you’ve got to be open to something radically new.

Jean Gebser also tells us how to shift our obstacles and move on. I know what he says is true, because I have done it myself many times over the last 20 years.

The method is simple but not easy. It works in the following kinds of situations:

1 – When you’re stuck in a situation that requires an internal shift.

2 – When you feel as if you are under a curse, because you keep stumbling into the same type of undesirable situations in the outer world again and again. (That’s always a clear sign that there must be something inside us that pulls us into those kinds of situations).

3 – When you want to do something you’ve never done before and you are scared of the obstacles, and/or you feel like you’re hitting an internal glass ceiling.

And this is how you break the spell:

Embrace the obstacle. In other words, accept your obstacle unconditionally as yours.

Please note: Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation. It doesn’t mean having to put up with anything. It does NOT mean having to live under this spell forever.

Unconditional acceptance is like true love. You can FEEL the difference.

Meet your obstacle with true unconditional love, and it will show you the way out. It will help you move towards where you want to be.

You don’t need to believe in magic to break this spell, but you’ve got to be open to some radically new ideas. If you can do that, then it may well happen much faster than you think.


© Veronika Bond, 2015

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